Just one thing

The magic of 'just one thing' might work for you if you're:

  • Overwhelmed by a goal you have set yourself
  • Excited by an idea but feel unable to work out how to make it a reality
  • Overwhelmed by life in general and feel that you have no time for what you want
  • You want to give up on your goal because you’re just tired of ‘the plan’ and want to take a break.
  • You have already given up, dropped the ball, fallen off the wagon, and wonder ‘what’s the point’?

Recently I have been having lots of conversations with various people in my life. Each conversation is different but I have noticed a common thread. The conversation topics traversed many situations, feelings and thoughts about fear, being stuck, being bored, being clueless, feeling uninspired, feeling overwhelmingly inspired, feeling tired, feeling ready to jump out your skin, feeling deep sadness, anger, frustration, apathy, or on the edge.

The common thread has been a desire to know what step to take next combined with an unhelpful feeling of being too overwhelmed to move.

How Bella gets her groove back - one step at a time

Not so long ago, I was in a state of complete exhaustion – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  I had burned the candle at both ends ... and in the middle. There was nothing left but a charred black wick barely holding onto the last lingering ember. I had forgotten how to say no. I had forgotten the basics of how to nurture my body. I had forgotten the simple truth that I did not have to sacrifice my health and sanity – not even for something I believed in.

I'm not sure I have ever been that depleted and I knew that something had to be done, but every time I thought about it I would get overwhelmed. Everything I would normally do seemed to be too hard, too selfish, too time-consuming, or just too demanding on my already frazzled self. It was clear I needed to start somewhere, so I started with four key principles that everything else needed to abide by. Every time I (or someone else) had an idea of what I needed to do, I would check it against the four principles.

Four key principles to getting my groove back
  1. Keep it simple
  2. Keep it easy
  3. Keep it real
  4. Keep it friendly

A treasure hunt for time - finding the time for your dreams

Do you ever hear yourself say, 'I wish I had the time to ... [fill in the blank]' ? Amongst the many automatic thoughts about the barriers we have to making a desired change in our lives, is the very real and tangible challenge of time. 

We can often feel that we don't have the time to do the things we want to do. However, we often decide this before really assessing what we are spending our time on. When was the last time you paid attention to how you spend this precious commodity in your life? Let's go on a treasure hunt - let's find the time for your dreams.

Mindfulness - what, why and how?

I'm currently involved in the Mindful In May challenge. I thought it would be a great way for me to learn what mindfulness was all about, and to discipline myself to a regular practice. The following are reflections on my experience and what I have learned so far. Just scratching the surface...

What is mindfulness?

Photo: Janelle K. Woods
I'm not a complete mindfulness novice, but it has been fascinating to read, listen and experience the various definitions and practices. The Mindful In May website describes mindful meditation as, 'a form of mental training that supports the mind to be more focused, clear and effective.  It’s often described as the practice of bringing your full attention, in an open, non-judgmental way to the present moment.'

Psychology Today describes it like this: 'Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience.'

The famous mindfulness teacher, Jon Kabat-Zinn, describes mindfulness as, 'paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.'